Shyness makes us self-absorbed. This is descriptive, not judgemental. Shy people can feel they have ‘nothing to say’, that they should have amazing stories to tell and be the life and soul of the party. People love you when you find shy when naked interesting. Overcoming shyness isn’t about suddenly thinking you’re great. It’s more about forgetting yourself and focusing outward. Ask questions and cultivate genuine curiosity. If you are at a party with strangers, try to connect how everyone knows each other.